My clients often ask me about how to better understand the messages of their bodies. My answer is: by living more in the body!
In order to practically develop this, additionally to the individual sessions and to the group activities on Thursday morning, I decided to organize a series of 3 conferences on “Breathing”, “Sleeping and Resting” and “Digest”.
The aim of these 3 conferences is to help the participants to become more embodied.
Being stuck, overwhelmed, tired, anxious, with physical symptoms and pains have an influence on our respiration, our ability to rest and our digestion.
Release consciously tensions; be aware about the reactions to what you perceive, have a calmer mind so to notice the signals of your body help to regain control on your negative reactions.
In my last article I started a reflexion about being right and wrong. And how believing to be in the right side is reassuring but also creating stress and uneasiness in our body. I would like to continue this reflection sharing with you something more personal: the ping-pong match that sometimes is going on in my brain.
Sometimes, I can experience in myself – and I know that some of my clients do the same – a ping pong match between 2 scenarios or 2 analysis or 2 opposite aspects. I’m not able to stop on one side and to let go the other one. My thinking is continuously moving : on one side I have “this is wrong, but…” and on the other side “this is right, but…”.
Why, at some moments, it is so important to be right? Why it becomes so important to proof to ourselves and to others that our opinions or our actions are correct?
The answer is quite simple: being right reassures us. It is a way to know that we didn’t do anything wrong and eventually that other people are on the wrong side.
Let’s continue the topic of the difference between what is important and what is urgent. In my last articles, we talked about taking time for ourself. We noticed that what is urgent makes us react automatically and neglect what is important in our life. What is nourishing our hearts, minds and relationships.
In my last article we talked about the difference between what is important – and requires time and calmness – and what we perceive as urgent – and leads us to run without taking time to reflect.
I’m back after one week in Malta where my main activity was focusing on 3 projects: writing the structure of my book, reading Bruno Latour and organizing an event. The schedule I created for myself worked just perfectly: starting every day with a walk until the beach, having a swim in the cool water, back at the hotel, breakfast and then starting to “work”. It amazed me how being away from the daily life AND having a clear focus made me experience the difference between what is important and what is urgent. Even if I had my computer with me, I could easily retain myself from controlling every e-mail coming in.