At the end of the last year, I gave, with a friend, a workshop* aiming to increase consciousness about the challenges that our planet, and us with her, are facing.
One of our participants, a young man from Mongolia, shared with us a very interesting observation. He said that in one hand, in the western society, we are very busy, even obsessed, by the material world. In the other hand, we constantly neglect, even forget, about what is invisible to our eyes.
I am reading an extremely interesting book written by Bruno Latour, a French philosopher. He explores the topic of why it is so difficult for us, for our societies, to shift our mindset about how we consume… our planet. I have to admit that the content of this book is intense and sometimes difficult to completely follow. But he proposes many considerations that fascinate and inspire me. I would like to share one of them with you.
You are probably familiar with the positive effect that a nice and a supportive word can have on you when someone gives you a compliment or recognition for a certain action you did or gives you encouragement in a difficult moment …
Words can make a huge difference on you, on your day and to others.
Have you already experienced that some tasks become, after a while, an obligation, although you started them with pleasure? How does it happen that you can start something full-hearted and end up being stressed and annoyed?
Let’s draw an imaginary line where “obligations and duties” are at one end and “pleasures and accomplishments” to the other end. Our perception moves along this line: when it approaches the “obligations and duties” side, very often repetitions are spoiling our experience.
In our modern and busy life, it is very easy to find ourselves stuck in tensions, worries and restlessness. When our mind reacts to stressful situations and starts to run, it leads the all body into the stress responds. So we find ourselves believing that we cannot take a break, let go of the tensions or take a moment to relax before having done everything that is in our “to do list”. We don’t dare to take a pause because of the fear of missing out something very important or of not being able to respect a deadline. We are convinced that only when the duty is accomplished, we will have the time – and also the authorization – to relax. The only little problem is that we have always something on our “to do list”.
Take care is the process of protecting someone or something and providing what that person or thing needs(*).
I believe we are all aware about the risk of taking care too much: when we put too much energy and attention in someone or something and we end up neglecting our own needs. Then we experienced tiredness, exhaustion, demotivation, dissatisfaction, bitterness…
But what are the signs of taking too little care of what is around us?