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The Power of Surrender

We often hear that we have to be able to ‘let go’: let go of the past, a difficult situation, a break-up, a failure. You may have noticed, as I have, that despite the relevance of this advice, it’s not so easy to apply.
Thinking and talking to my clients about it , I’ve noticed that we often refer to ‘letting go’ as a synonym for not feeling what’s disturbing and unpleasant about situations we’d like to leave behind.  Because it’s unpleasant, we try not to feel it. But by not feeling it, we can’t let it go.
When we accept that a situation has been important in our lives without pretending indifference or detachment, its end leads us to experience sensations such as a sense of loss, a feeling of failure, a loss of control, regardless of whether or not it corresponds to reality. Then, let it go can be difficult.

The difficulty of feeling unpleasant sensations and the reaction to protect ourselves against them so that we can continue to function in everyday life are perfectly natural. But our resistance to these experiences highlights our desire for reality, our reality, to be different, less frustrating, less difficult, less disappointing.
And through this resistance, we maintain in the present what has already happened in the past.

This leads me to think that perhaps a better concept for training our attention to let go would be ‘surrender’: accepting that the ‘battle’ has been lost and that we can therefore stop trying to change/control/modify reality. It’s a question of training ourselves to accept what is. Surrendering to what is by feeling what has happened and its consequences.

To achieve this result, our training will be to :

  • Allowing ourselves to connect with the unpleasant emotions linked to the situation that we would like to leave behind us.
  • Acknowledging our feelings while trying not to judge, recriminate or blame ourselves or others. Here, the difficulty lies in getting our mind to observe what has happened and the emotions it arouses, without intervening or trying to explain or justify.
  • Encouraging circulation and, above all, digestion during this process means returning to conscious breathing: this allows us to feel more, to integrate what has happened and finally to let it go.

Personally, I find the practice of mobilising my mind towards those aspects of the experience that allow me to learn about myself – how I responded in such a situation/relationship, but also about others a particularly useful tool.

Surrendering thus becomes an important step in the process of digestion, integration and composting to create new humus for new flowers to grow.
As always, I’d be delighted to support you in your process of letting go.

 

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Transformative Journey

“I’ve been working with Michelle for quite some time now, and it has been a transformative journey. Michelle’s unique approach combines profound expertise with a warm, personal touch that makes every session deeply rewarding and fun (although this seems like an odd description for doing deep healing work). Her ability to tailor sessions to my specific needs has resulted in noticeable improvements in my physical and mental well-being. The environment at Bodylearning is inviting and professional, making each visit a pleasure. I highly recommend Michelle to anyone looking to enhance their body awareness and overall health.” Jennifer, coach.

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After Long Covid

“After being affected by long covid which resulted in short breathing and tachycardia, I couldn’t put my breathing and heart rate under control especially in stressful situations where the symptoms were intensified.  Michelle helped me to take back my breathing, understand the signals of the body prior to what might trigger a crisis, and raise awareness of how to come back to a balanced state.
It turned out to be very beneficial for the work life as well, the body shows itself when it’s stressed and signals lack of confidence in difficult situations; such as in meetings where difficult discussions are handled.
I totally recommend Michelle for any kind of issue you would like to work with through the breathing. Not only it brings connection to your body and feelings, but also improves your reflection and response to any situation, bringing new perspectives in stress handling.
Her approach is empathetic, understanding and fully adaptive to the individuals. Adding Michelle’s humor to the equation, it also provides lighter energy which makes this experience enjoyable!” Vanessa, engineer.

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Observing our Thoughts

Some of my clients describe, during their sessions with me, how their negative thoughts cause tensions, anxiety and even sleep problems, and how difficult this is to change.
Breathing exercises are very useful because, by paying attention to the practice, we channel the mind into the body – into the present moment – and in this way we can stop or alleviate the physical reaction.   [Read more]

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« We tend to suppose that energy is dissipated with use. We think that doing extra work incurs loss. But energy increases as we use it ».
Haruchika Noguchi wrote these lines in 1984 in his book ‘Order, spontaneity and the body‘. In it, he reflects on the importance of confronting what life presents us with, in order to gain more vital energy. He believes that a person does not become stronger and healthier by avoiding – as a life strategy – what is perceived as negative or difficult.     [Read more]

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Reduce a habit

We are at the end of March and I would like to ask you a question: do you still remember what resolutions you made at the end of 2023?
Making a resolution for the coming year has become a fairly common practice: we declare our intention to improve ourselves, to take better care of ourselves, to make our lives better, more satisfying or more exciting.
Then we give it some attention and, as soon as everyday life resumes after the festivities and holidays, we forget the fact that we wanted to bring change into our lives and we abandon our resolutions, often overwhelmed by the things we have to do.

Does this ring a bell?     [Read more]