In the previous article, we talked about the importance of being honest and about a tool: the honesty journal 🙂
But how does it work, exactly, an honesty journal? Is it about saying always what we feel or what we think truthfully? Do we need to “impose” it to our friends, family and colleagues, despite social conventions and despite the risk of hurting other people’s feelings?
No! Let’s focus on the person who is the closest to us: ourselves!
Some weeks ago, I found an interesting article about an “honesty journal” experience, that the writer Judi Ketteler (*) was keeping for the last 7 months. In the article, she was sharing how challenging it was to keep the intention to say the truth: answering questions about death to her 6 years old daughter, exposing frustration or dissatisfaction in relationships or more general, risking hurting people’s feelings.
I feel very close to her challenge as I’m also practicing the truth… especially to myself 🙂
Even if the topic was known to me, her article nourished my own reflection about facing our fears : the fear of hurting other people and the risk to lose them. [Read more]
Are you accustomed to regularly meeting your fears? Or you organise your life in order to never be confronted with the moment you will feel insecure?
If you like the concept – and the practice – of “stepping out of your comfort zone“ you may be already aware that sometimes, we can find ourselves experiencing insecurity. On that moment, our mind can produce thousands of very good, rational and conformable justifications about the reasons to NOT step out. [Read more]
Is your attention free? Can you stay focus on the present moment or you need to react to every “bip” and “bing” your smart phone produces?
We are all aware that Internet and social media are addictive. But still, we can’t help to check one more time our screen to see if something new has popped up in the last 3 seconds.
The irresistible need to check at our devises is an automatic reaction triggered by apps designed specifically to attract constantly our attention. Regain control of our attention may be a challenge.
In my last article, we read that reciprocity is very important in relationships. We also saw that we have the tendency, in our relationships, to take an automatic position that results in lack of reciprocity.
Lack of reciprocity leads to frustration, dissatisfaction, conflict… and unhappiness.
How can we prevent this? By being attentive to 3 types of behavior or attitude we produce, normally without realizing what they are telling us: reciprocity is missing!
Reciprocity is a very important ingredient in relationships.
Think about that: “Relationships are exquisitely sensitive to balance in their early stages, and a great way to ruin things is either to give too much (you seem perhaps a bit desperate) or too little (you seem cold and rejecting). Rather, relationships grow best by balanced give and take, especially of gifts, favors, attention, and self disclosure.” *