In my last article, we talked about how we control our body by repeating and reducing ourselves, when we want to feel safe.
That pattern allows us to avoid certain emotions that we consider negative: fear of being rejected, anger, guiltiness, sensation of missing out something important..
Those emotions can help us to navigate in our life. They give us some clues about what is going on inside us: what do we want or not? What makes us feel comfortable or not? What do we appreciate or not? How are we stuck in our life?
In my previous articles, we discovered how we hold negative beliefs in our bodies and how we may recognise the influence those beliefs have in our life.
We also started to identify a belief by paying attention at a certain situation where this belief appears, who is involved, our emotional response and how do we hold our bodies.
All beliefs give us a key for reading what is happening around us. They give us a false sense of safety by telling us what we have to do and ….what we do not have to do in order to keep us save!
Now you can start to train!
Sometimes in a session, it happens that my client gets to feel pain, embarrassment or irritation… At this moment, I give the instruction to “breathe deep, don’t contract, allow these feelings to flow”.
This may be rather difficult, because at that moment we tend to do exactly the opposite: to contract, resist and not feel the sensations awoken during the session. You need to know that by following the instructions, these uncomfortable feelings become quietness, relaxation and confidence. The head and body become one and you experience an extremely pleasant sensation. However to get there, it sometimes takes a little while.
When we fall in love, I mean the moment we feel butterflies in our stomach, our life, for a while changes. The emotions and experience we feel when we meet a new person (or start a new project) create a state where everything seems to be new, intense and beautiful. Generally, we think it comes from the love we feel. And we know that after a while this feeling will slow down; the excitement fades away and it leads to… routine!
Often we manage our anger by… holding it back! Often we manage our anger by… holding it back!
We do it when we are upset, frustrated, or when we do not feel respected. But this energy, even when we explode, does not disappear. It is stored in the body.