Take care is the process of protecting someone or something and providing what that person or thing needs(*).
I believe we are all aware about the risk of taking care too much: when we put too much energy and attention in someone or something and we end up neglecting our own needs. Then we experienced tiredness, exhaustion, demotivation, dissatisfaction, bitterness…
But what are the signs of taking too little care of what is around us?
In the previous article, we talked about the importance of being honest and about a tool: the honesty journal 🙂
But how does it work, exactly, an honesty journal? Is it about saying always what we feel or what we think truthfully? Do we need to “impose” it to our friends, family and colleagues, despite social conventions and despite the risk of hurting other people’s feelings?
No! Let’s focus on the person who is the closest to us: ourselves!
In my last article, we read that reciprocity is very important in relationships. We also saw that we have the tendency, in our relationships, to take an automatic position that results in lack of reciprocity.
Lack of reciprocity leads to frustration, dissatisfaction, conflict… and unhappiness.
How can we prevent this? By being attentive to 3 types of behavior or attitude we produce, normally without realizing what they are telling us: reciprocity is missing!
Reciprocity is a very important ingredient in relationships.
Think about that: “Relationships are exquisitely sensitive to balance in their early stages, and a great way to ruin things is either to give too much (you seem perhaps a bit desperate) or too little (you seem cold and rejecting). Rather, relationships grow best by balanced give and take, especially of gifts, favors, attention, and self disclosure.” *
Emotions are a great source of energy, even if it is not always easy or comfortable to experience them! How can we train so to reduce our control and tap more into our intuition?
There you find 5 steps that will help you to increase your awareness in a specific situation and give you a base to train how to change it.
And if you need more support, you can always contact me!
When we suffer from physical or emotional pain, our first reaction is to make something to reduce the sensation.
– we make effort;
– we create tension in the whole body;
– we become less sensitive.
By producing this reaction – this automatic pattern -, we reduce our capacity of self-healing and recovery of the body.
Learn to deal differently to pain by paying attention to your body and to your emotions.