Is your attention free? Can you stay focus on the present moment or you need to react to every “bip” and “bing” your smart phone produces?
We are all aware that Internet and social media are addictive. But still, we can’t help to check one more time our screen to see if something new has popped up in the last 3 seconds.
The irresistible need to check at our devises is an automatic reaction triggered by apps designed specifically to attract constantly our attention. Regain control of our attention may be a challenge.
You may have notice that, as many other practitioners and coaches do, I always emphasise on the importance of breathing.
The breathing is a direct bridge to our ability to perceiving more of the changes appearing inside us and in our surrounding. When we limit our breathing, our perception’s ability is also reduced. When we breath bigger and deeper, our perception becomes also bigger and deeper.
Although it is quite clear to everyone why we need to breathe, it is not always evident why it is important to expanding our breathing and deepening our respiration. Sometimes this is very uncomfortable: it takes more time and slows us down. On the other hand, it allows us to feel more of what is happening in our body!
Some times, when I give the instruction « breathe » to my client, I receive the answer « of course I’m breathing, otherwise I would be dead ». This situation brings always both of us to laugh a lot, what is good for the breathing exercise !
Respiration is a basic function: we have to breathe in order to live. It’s an automatic function too: it means we don’t need to be attentive to that, breathing happen by it self (our vegetative system takes care of the automatic breathing).
Sometimes in a session, it happens that my client gets to feel pain, embarrassment or irritation… At this moment, I give the instruction to “breathe deep, don’t contract, allow these feelings to flow”.
This may be rather difficult, because at that moment we tend to do exactly the opposite: to contract, resist and not feel the sensations awoken during the session. You need to know that by following the instructions, these uncomfortable feelings become quietness, relaxation and confidence. The head and body become one and you experience an extremely pleasant sensation. However to get there, it sometimes takes a little while.
Often we manage our anger by… holding it back! Often we manage our anger by… holding it back!
We do it when we are upset, frustrated, or when we do not feel respected. But this energy, even when we explode, does not disappear. It is stored in the body.
When we suffer from physical or emotional pain, our first reaction is to make something to reduce the sensation.
– we make effort;
– we create tension in the whole body;
– we become less sensitive.
By producing this reaction – this automatic pattern -, we reduce our capacity of self-healing and recovery of the body.